There is a young man named John* that Chicken and I met through a gay-friendly organization that is in serious need of help. He’s a freshman in high school, and just came out at the beginning of this school year. His family has been very involved in a conservative anti-gay church, and when they found out that he was gay all hell broke loose. John lost his friends, his mother lost all but two of her friends. He couldn’t take the bullying at school, and his mom home schooled him for the rest of the semester.
We met John and his mother over the semester break. Chicken and John exchanged phone numbers, and John’s mother said that he was coming back to school (Chicken’s school) in January. I told Chicken to take John under his wing (no pun intended) and I thought that was the end of it. Chicken’s school is fairly gay friendly, he started a GSA there and he has a wide group of friends. I told John and his mother the last time I saw them that John would have to be confident in himself or he would be eaten alive, no matter what high school he attended.
The semester started in early January. John has already been pulled from Chicken’s school by his mother due to bullying. John never contacted Chicken or returned his texts. I received a worried email from the head of the gay friendly group wondering about the bullying and anti-gay climate at Chicken’s high school. And I’m unreasonably pissed off.
I’m angry at John’s mom, not at the school, not at the bullies. John is the type of kid that would cry and fall over if you stared at him too hard. He’s a gay teenager that has been raised in an anti-gay climate for his whole life. All his friends and most of his parents’ friends have turned away from him because he’s gay. And I blame his mother. She chose to raise him among people that hated gays, and it was acceptable because it wasn’t THEM. They weren’t gay, so it was okay to hate gays.
I’m glad that she is supporting her son, but she taught him that to be gay is to be ashamed and against God. He appears to have zero self-confidence, and no matter what his perceived difference is he will be bullied in high school. It could be the color of his hair. He’s ashamed of who he is, and teenagers (like mommy bloggers) smell fear like blood in the water. I feel sorry for John, but I want to smack his mother. Of course, she has requested my phone number because she wants her son to have gay and gay friendly friends. I think that having gay-friendly friends is a prerequisite to being a decent fucking human being, but that’s just pregnant and pissy Sam I suppose.
How does Chicken deal with bullying in high school? Well, imagine me (now) in high school. The people that know Chicken are surprised by how much the two of us are alike. When Chicken hears comments like “You’re SO GAAAAAY!!!1!” or “faggot!” he replies with a variety of retorts:
- Fuck yes I’m gay. What’s your point?
- And who the fuck are you?
- *flips them off and motions sticking fist in their ass*
I asked Chicken for a comment as he said:”You have to talk to them like you want to put it in them. It scares the crap out of them. It is like the shark trying to eat the fish and the fish kicks the sharks ass.” Chicken occasionally gets his ass slapped (playfully, not painfully) in his PE class by other guys. He responds with a super flamboyant, “Oh thank YOU ma’am.” He is a confident young man and he doesn’t take shit. He surrounds himself with friends that stand up for him, and he has always had support at home. I’m proud of my son, my friends are proud of him, and he knows it. He walks it every day at school. And that is how he is successful.
*Obviously, not his real name.