I need some advice please. Chicken has a friend that is considering becoming sexually active with her boyfriend. Her parents aren’t comfortable talking to her about sex. She knows that she should use condoms and potentially start taking birth control. The nearest Planned Parenthood is a thirty minute drive away, and she isn’t old enough to drive. She has confided in Chicken, and he has urged her to talk to me. I can give her advice, but should I help her? My hypothetical options are:
a) talk to her about sex and her options
b) help her get condoms so she can have safe(r) sex
c) help her get to a Planned Parenthood
I don’t even know the legal ramifications of taking a minor that is not my child to Planned Parenthood. I know that the legal age of consent in California is 18. I’m feeling lost because I haven’t ever thought about this situation. Chicken and I talk about all of these things and more. His girlfriends come to me with questions about boys, sex, and relationships. I’d prefer that they all wait until they are adults, and I tell them as much. I tell them why they should wait until they’re older. But I’m not naive-I know that teenagers do have sex. I want them to understand how to protect themselves if they choose to become sexually active. I’d like to know what the fuck their parents are thinking.
Chicken was talking with some friends about using condoms and they did not realize that condoms are needed in gay relations. Apparently in high school the belief is that condoms are only needed to avoid pregnancy. I talked about this on Twitter one night and a friend discussed this with her children. She was astonished to realize that her children also didn’t realize that condoms were used by gay couples. If you’re not talking to your children they are most likely getting their information from their uneducated peers. Don’t leave this to chance.
I’ll get off my soap box and ask you to get on yours: what would you do if someone’s child came to you needing help and advice?