I’m really annoyed and I should be sleeping but instead I’m pissed. The other day @imparkingathome said there was a thread about her on GOMI. I didn’t know what GOMI was, she explained, I went there. I got lost and I saw a thread about MFA Mama. Because I understand what it is like to be close friends with somebody and then have the person turn out to be NOT COOL I left a comment on the thread. I understand the point of GOMI is to anonymously talk about people, but I do not give a shit. If I am on the internet I am going to use my nickname, Sam. I’m going to use my URL. I’m not going to change it, delete blogs, go private on Twitter, etc. Here I am! Still here!
After leaving the original comment (MFA Mama has screen shots of both up on her blog in case you’re curious) I thought about it and decided to omit the part about the post on Cecily. I hadn’t talked to Stalky about it and didn’t want to speak for her. Then I went back to the thread and noticed there were changes. MFA Mama had joined the conversation using another name. I went to her blog and realized I was playing a starring role in her manufactured drama.
Stalky and I think she made up the thread for page views and dramas. Whatever, I don’t care about any of that. What I do care about is her linking to a post of mine to assure you she is an upstanding citizen. I’m not really fond of that idea, so here’s an excerpt of an email sent to me while I was pregnant with Egg:
This further devolution of my own life is making it even harder to argue with Satan that even though the universe trends toward entropy, it can do that well enough without MY help. Satan doesn’t think I should suffer alone. Satan has photographic evidence of identifying marks/piercings/tattoos, and incriminating g-chat logs, and he wants to print it alllll out and get it off his chest–Satan is arguing that it’s only fair that EVERYONE know the WHOLE STORY. Eliza, says Satan, don’t you believe in HONESTY? Sure, the other party could try to lash out at you via the Internet, but you have no credit to ruin, no identity to steal, no trust in your marriage to lose, YOUR husband has already READ all of that stuff and looked at it because he hacked your laptop, and you’re going to have to shut your blog down anyway so who CARES if The Other Party outs you by posting your real name on their blog? You could turn right around and do the same to them, and they have a career to worry about! You don’t! You have NOTHING TO LOSE, YOU’RE FREE TO DO ANYTHING, ANYTHING AT ALL!
In case you’re confused, this is MFA Mama threatening to ruin my life because she has nothing left to lose. In this and many other emails she threatened to mail “evidence” to my in-laws, ruin my marriage, my career, and even contact all of my baby daddies in order to have my children removed from my custody. She even includes my First Son and I’m not sure how I can lose custody of a child I put up for adoption at birth. We were friends, and when she turned out to not be the person I thought she was, she threatened me. WHILE I WAS PREGNANT.
I found a group of ladies who went through a similar drama. So when I saw the thread I was hoping to HELP anyone finding themselves in a similar predicament. To let them know they aren’t the first or the last going through this mess. As MFA Mama enjoys threatening to go to the police with evidence of …something…I am going on record here:
I was good friends with MFA Mama. She turned out to be NOT COOL and NOT A GOOD FRIEND TO ME. If she can prove in a court of law that she IS COOL and WAS A GOOD FRIEND even when I had to shut down my credit card to prevent her from using it beyond what I agreed to then I shall apologize and remove this post.
Every so often I can’t help myself, “SATAN” possesses my mouse & makes me click on over to read the latest drama
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Woooo-Woooooo~welcome aboard the Crazy Train!
She’s so nuts, I don’t even feel bad for all the bad shit I’m going to say about her. But would it really change anything, and WTF would Satan say if he knew I was bad-mouthing one of his minions?
You’re right, Satan, you can have this one, I got plenty of other demi-humans to play with. Less chance of catching crazy, right, big guy?
Lessons in toxic peoples … As long as you know the truth and stand by it then that is your truth. Sometimes educated people are the stupidest people. I don’t know the entire story nor do I want to go and participate in this drama.
I am of the mind that “What people think of me is none of my business, until they go after my husband or family. I’ve dealt with this kind of abuse on my blog in the past and went to the trouble to open a new domain and move my blog off one grid to another to get away from those fuckers.
Sometimes people are sick and they are to be avoided, because if you acknowledge them and their assholery it only makes it worse because they have your attention and they know that you are paying them attention they so desperately need … (Read: One Sick Fuck) stay away. Make sure you capture, print and save every threat and note and comment. It may come in handy later on if legal action is taken. People can be found a lot easier today because of social media…
You don’t need this kind of drama in your life, you do well right there on your own.
Don’t add fuel to the fire. Le them burn themselves out, because once she realizes that she ain’t pushin any more buttons – she will move on to other people that she can taunt, prod and fuck with.
Bitches be crazy !!!
Jeremy
Is she ‘mfa mama’ because she has an mfa? as in many people with mfa’s don’t have children or vice versa, so she is THE MFA MAMA? I tried reading her about page, but it took me to walmart saying I won something for being special or something, go figure. And she just randomly says shit like, “not to flaunt my degree, but this would never fly in my mfa” No shit, you don’t get graded on life in grad school (if you did, I would WIN). This lady is cray cray and I’m glad you are rid of her. I’m also glad she isn’t going to go to the police with some made up shit about you, that sounds potentially awful and obnoxious. And, yes, I am distracting myself from my PHD dissertation, not to flaunt my degree.
*bwahahahaha* You are my favorite SIL!
And now with more rewriting by MFA Mama! Threats of going to the police about the whole thing have been removed. Well that’s a good thing.
Well…now I know where to go to find all the internet drama, I suppose. People are crazy.
Sigh…sorry you’re involved with this sort of thing.
Just….what the fuckity fuck?
That’s insane.
I had someone lose it on me like that once, and one of the worst parts was feeling so ALONE: no one knew what was happening, and it felt wrong to tell anyone. It seems like hearing that the same thing has happened to someone else is one of the most comforting and helpful things possible.
I owe you an email!
I’m so glad I didn’t link to the particular posts on MFA Mama, as there has been deleting and rewriting overnight.
And just a note since she is now saying she didn’t write the above e-mail, I know of at least half a dozen people including myself who received daily (usually multiple times a day) ”newsletters” from her during this same time with VOLUMINOUS references to conversations with ”Satan” regarding her intended vengeance on other people. To say it was scary is the under-statement of the decade.
Also, when half a dozen people independently have the exact same experience (immediate intimacy and BFF status, dozens of calls & texts daily, taking bits of other people’s lives and creating your own ”experiences” around other people’s actual histories) with one person the problem doesn’t lie with the collective. Your kid is gay? MINE, TOO! You have x disease? ME, TOO! You have x problem in your marriage? ME, TOO! You have x experience with y medical issue? ME, TOO! Family problems? ME, TOO! Abuse? ME, TOO! Disgusting and gross doesn’t come close to describing how I felt once the ”curtain dropped” (I cut her out of my life with a clear explanation) and the obsession with being rejected again began along with YEARS of being blamed for every single thing in her life that was fucked up at her own hand (Spoiler Alert: ALL OF IT).
Anyway, I love you and she can go (continue) to pound sand and pan-handle on Twitter.
Anyone rambling about Satan or other deities/entities freak me the fuck out and are automatically added to the AVOID!! list. I get lost on that GOMI site besides seeing PAH’s thread. It’s just crazy to me to some bloggers (mommies or otherwise) feel this competition and go all nutso to get attention. Just sad, really.